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How To Stand Up Again After Failing

How many times have you failed? How many times have people and those close to you sawed you failed? I’m pretty sure you’ve lost count and it’s okay. I am not here to point fingers and I am definitely not here to judge you because I myself have failed countless of times. There were failures that I easily brushed off while there were those that really traumatized me. Like the series of girls who turned me down, the number of times I got rejected for my writing submissions or the time when my first ever business went into bankruptcy because I didn’t really have a clue what I was doing. Or the time when my math professor flunked me in my Algebra class and our principal decided that I didn’t fit into any of their classes for the junior year. In other words, they dropped me out. When it comes to failures I guess I can say I’m a pro at it because I have failed so much and in so many instances in my lifetime.
And I’m going to admit it, failing sucks big time. The feeling is remarkably painful and often times it goes so deep that it scars us for life. The majority of us would die to get a taste of success and freedom on our first attempt, but you see life doesn’t work that way.

It’s hard to press on when you’re being shoved with failure after failure but keep in mind that everyone fails and it’s not just you. Yes, it’s going to hurt but that’s what makes you human. It’s part of life. Traumatizing as it is, there are ways where you can stand up and bounce back from failure without fearing it. Here’s what you can do to regain your self-confidence back after it has been beaten up by the hurts and aches of failures.

What have you learned from the experience?

Think of that failure as life’s way of teaching you a lesson. What have you learned? Think of it this way, if you didn’t fail you wouldn’t learn and you wouldn’t know how to improve. And since nobody is perfect, all of us are bound to fail at some paint. If you fail at one thing, don’t highlight the pains but instead shift your focus on the lessons learned from it. Ask these questions to yourself whenever you fail:Continue reading