How To Stand Up Again After Failing

How many times have you failed? How many times have people and those close to you sawed you failed? I’m pretty sure you’ve lost count and it’s okay. I am not here to point fingers and I am definitely not here to judge you because I myself have failed countless of times. There were failures that I easily brushed off while there were those that really traumatized me. Like the series of girls who turned me down, the number of times I got rejected for my writing submissions or the time when my first ever business went into bankruptcy because I didn’t really have a clue what I was doing. Or the time when my math professor flunked me in my Algebra class and our principal decided that I didn’t fit into any of their classes for the junior year. In other words, they dropped me out. When it comes to failures I guess I can say I’m a pro at it because I have failed so much and in so many instances in my lifetime.
And I’m going to admit it, failing sucks big time. The feeling is remarkably painful and often times it goes so deep that it scars us for life. The majority of us would die to get a taste of success and freedom on our first attempt, but you see life doesn’t work that way.

It’s hard to press on when you’re being shoved with failure after failure but keep in mind that everyone fails and it’s not just you. Yes, it’s going to hurt but that’s what makes you human. It’s part of life. Traumatizing as it is, there are ways where you can stand up and bounce back from failure without fearing it. Here’s what you can do to regain your self-confidence back after it has been beaten up by the hurts and aches of failures.

What have you learned from the experience?

Think of that failure as life’s way of teaching you a lesson. What have you learned? Think of it this way, if you didn’t fail you wouldn’t learn and you wouldn’t know how to improve. And since nobody is perfect, all of us are bound to fail at some paint. If you fail at one thing, don’t highlight the pains but instead shift your focus on the lessons learned from it. Ask these questions to yourself whenever you fail:

  • What did I learn from this?
  • How can this experience help me succeed in the future?
  • How can I do things differently the next time around?

Once you view your failures as lessons the pain wouldn’t hurt as much because you’ll start to see that all the efforts and the time you invested weren’t wasted because in the end you’ve come out stronger, wiser and smarter than ever before.

Even the greatest of people failed.

Virtually, every famous person in this planet failed at some point in his or her seemingly flawless and perfect life. Failing can be off-putting, but that’s how life works. If you don’t press on, nothing spectacular is ever going to happen with you. And if you make a habit of quitting every time you encounter rejection you’ll never know what’s going to happen to you in the long-term and you’ll be stuck with what ifs. Whenever you’re feeling discouraged look at these people for inspiration. They failed before you did but look at them now.

  • The Harry Potter series and Dr. Seuss were first rejected before they made it big.
  • The now popular series The Chicken Soup for the Soul received rejection one hundred and forty times before it was ever published.
  • The founder of the famous Honda car company had his factories demolished by earthquake and war, but he pressed on.

You see, if these people got discouraged and quit on their firs they would never have known success in their lives. If you want to succeed you have to swallow rejection and move on.


Instead of getting in a hurry to reach success why don’t you visualize the long-term? Success is like nurturing a bamboo. At first, it would take a while for it to really grow and for the first couple of years nothing really exciting is happening and all you’ll see is a tiny shoot. But what we don’t see is what is happening beneath the soil. The truth is, bamboos are creating a strong foundation below and when it’s ready, it explodes into a beautiful tree that can rise by a couple of meters in a week.

Success is like that. It takes a series of failures to build a foundation before it grows into success.

Simone Fiorletta

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Simone Fiorletta