Letting Go of These Things Will Free You From Misery

For many of us, we share one goal in common and that is to be happy. I mean, who doesn’t? We do things knowingly or unknowingly for our happiness. Like why did you choose that job? When someone would ask me why I chose to write over working as a nurse my answer is automatic, “Because writing makes me happy.”  It’s really as simple as that. Although part of it is that it makes good money, the main reason why I chose to become a writer is because I love writing and writing makes me happy. Everything we do is for the sake of our own happiness. While there may be those people who work even if it’s not in line with their passion just to make a living, they strive to find happiness on other things.

Although ultimate happiness is hard to find knowing that life is a cycle of ups and downs, being content with what you have and with your life is enough to consider it a blessing. So here are some things you need to let go for you to find your fair share of happiness in this world.

Let Go of Pride.

Pride is never good and too much of it can destroy you. It destroys not only yourself but your relationships as well and pride when unchecked may even get in the way of your success. A humble person always recognizes the fact that at times he could be wrong and he’s the one who’s at fault. A person filled with pride, on the other hand, will never see his mistakes and will likely blame other people for it. If you constantly deny you’re at fault even if it’s you who’s made the mistake you will never learn and you will never grow. Seeking personal improvement will not happen as long as you continue to live with pride.

Let Go of Grudges.

One of the reasons why you’re unhappy is because you harbor grudges against people. Holding a grudge is like holding fire, it is going to hurt you and not the other person so it’s best if you just forgive and let go. Have you noticed monks and priests teaching us the significance of forgiveness? They teach us how to forgive because it not only brings peace to the world but to ourselves as well. When you choose to forgive you become at peace with yourself. So why hold on to pain and hurt and when you know it’s going to backfire on you? It’s going to be hard, but as long as you set your mind towards forgiveness it will happen eventually. It may not happen overnight, but it will as long as you consistently choose to forgive through your actions and your words.

Let Go of the Thinking that Money is Equal to Success.

We were all made to believe that having a lot of money meant success. While this may very well be true if you base it on what you see on television or in social media, success isn’t entirely confined to having lots of money. If this were the case then why did Whitney Houston cut her life short? Why did Heath Ledger overdose on drugs until he met his death? Why did Marilyn Monroe commit suicide? All of them had money, all of them were famous, but were they happy? Happy people don’t commit suicide. That’s something you should think about. The truth of the matter is, success is subjective. A promotion, a new business venture, a new friend and even acquiring a new title are considered successes. Heck, doing the laundry, cooking meals and cleaning up the house all in one day can already pass up as a success for a homemaker. Success depends on how you see it. You know you are successful once you are happy. So let go of the notion that money is equivalent to success because it’s clearly not.

Let Go of Toxic People.

Toxic people are like leeches. They suck the life and the happiness out of you whether they do it deliberately or unintentionally. I once had a friend who I kept for years. We were friends because I’ve known her since we were little. Eventually, when we got older we grew apart but we always kept in touch. I didn’t realize that my successes and accomplishments caused her to become insecure. And so whenever she had the chance she discouraged me, ridiculed me and mocked my accomplishments. Eventually, her words seemed deep and I was convinced that I had of little value and worth. I began to question my abilities and I wasn’t happy with what I had accomplished because I always thought those weren’t enough based on how my so-called friend judged me.

 

In the long haul, I got unhappy and I realized that my friend was somehow responsible for it. Her toxicity rubbed off on me and I began to see her cynical view of the world as my own. Immediately I dropped the friendship although not abruptly. When I distanced myself from her and found a new social circle filled with optimism and encouragement I began to see myself in a new light once again and that’s when I found happiness. Happiness can sometimes be hampered because we choose to surround ourselves with toxic people. As soon as you identify someone who is popping your happy bubbles, let them go.

 

Simone Fiorletta

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